It’s no secret that we live in a society where women are expected to be strong, rock solid, and capable of handling anything life throws at them. It seems like these days people want us to do it all, have it all, and look good doing it! But this pressure is actually making us more tired than ever before.
I find that many women come to me feeling so heavy and burdened by their responsibilities. I certainly felt that way when I first started my business. On some level, we’re all starting from the burden of being responsible for everything.
But it’s possible to still be the successful, high-performing woman you want to be, while avoiding burnout, finding joy in your work again, and having fun.
Here are some ways to do just that.
Let Go of the Pressure to Do It All
There will always be outside pressures at play to get things done, and when it comes to work and other “must do” responsibilities, you probably don’t have much flexibility. That’s okay!
It’s the self-imposed deadlines, the ones that we put on ourselves, that we need to address here. We put way too much pressure on ourselves to be rock stars, to be the best, to be perfect. But what does this accomplish?
Mostly, more pressure. And it’s unnecessary.
As you’re focused on a deadline, it’s easy to get caught up with the little things. You feel pressured to get everything done and your priority is dishes or a clean house before bedtime so that they don’t pile up for tomorrow morning.
It can be tempting while in this mindset of doing stuff all day long–checking emails, finishing reports at work etc.–to forget about having fun, because why not do both?
But there are some moments where just one more thing seems like too much! And then we start feeling guilty when “having time” becomes an afterthought instead of being something enjoyable again. All those deadlines go straight into our mind as well!
It’s time to stop putting more pressure on yourself to do it all, and instead, make the time for fun and play.
Shift Away From Your Scarcity Mindset
For most of us, the idea that we have to do it all is a mindset adopted by our hard-working society. We feel obligated to take on as much responsibility and work as possible because we’re conditioned to believe that this is how we get ahead in life.
The problem with this approach is that when the weight of keeping up with everything becomes overwhelming, your natural lightheartedness gets crushed under its own weight. As crazy busy women who are trying our best not to burn out or become resentful of our never-ending responsibilities at home and work, avoiding playtime can be one more thing going into the list–and then we start feeling guilty!
The good news for those of us working hard without taking care of ourselves? You can surrender.
Surrendering doesn’t mean you’ve failed. Surrendering means that we stop carrying the weight and start accepting a life and a mindset that’s light and free.
Your to-do list will never be done, so stop trying to accomplish this impossible task. Instead, surrender yourself to the mindset that you don’t have to get it all done, and that rest is crucial to productivity.
I’m not suggesting that you avoid responsibility or avoiding work altogether, but what I am suggesting is to make sure to take care of yourself so you don’t get too overwhelmed with all your responsibilities.
I often find myself in the most playful and joyful moments of my life.
I am not just better at work, but all aspects of my life seem to fall into place more easily when I’m relaxed and content.
Life is just…easier.
You’ve Earned the Time to Have Fun
This is the most important step to avoiding burnout and finding joy in your life and work again. It’s so easy for us to get swallowed up by all of life’s responsibilities, but it doesn’t have to be that way.
To start having more fun, you must first prioritize what matters most: your happiness. Yes, your happiness is more important than having a clean house, meeting a self-imposed deadline, or whipping up the perfect spread for your next gathering.
You’ve worked so hard to create this amazing career and amazing life, but none of it matters if you’re not making time to be playful.
When you give yourself permission to enjoy your time, you may find yourself feeling lighter than ever before!
Create Boundaries in Your Life
In order to truly enjoy your time for fun, you have to treat it as if it’s just as important as the work meeting on your planner.
That’s why I suggest that you create boundaries in your life.
Having a set time and space for work can help you to be more productive, but it also gives you the freedom to enjoy yourself at other times of day or night.
Once you get into the habit of making these rules for yourself, they will feel normal–even easy! Try scheduling just 30 minutes after dinner as “dessert”.
Set an alarm on your phone so that when it goes off, remind yourself not to turn back over to work mode; instead, use this time to do something fun.
When somebody asks you to do something during this time, honor this time and say “no.” You don’t have to explain why! Just say “no” and move on.
Schedule Fun First
We tend to schedule all the “have to dos” in our lives first, leaving very little time for the things we want to enjoy.
If you want to have more fun, schedule it first.
What do you love doing? What are your hobbies and passions? Schedule time for them as a priority in your life. Make these things the top of the list on your calendar so that they get done!
It might seem hard at first, but try this exercise: make two lists–one with everything you “have” to do today (work, laundry, dishes) and one with all the things you would like to do today (reading a book by the pool).
See how much space there is between those tasks. If we spend our days only fulfilling what needs to be completed then nothing will ever change or grow because every day becomes just another copy of itself.
This week, this month, this season, I want you to schedule more fun in your life. Make it a priority.
Schedule time for lunch with a friend. Give a loved one a phone call. Dance around the living room.
Whatever it is that brings you joy, I want you to get out your calendar right now, and schedule it in on a regular basis.
In my journey, I’ve really doubled down on tapping into the playful me, and really making sure that I don’t get caught up in this hamster wheel of doing instead of being.
Ready to start your journey? Learn more about my 10-week program, Dream Big, Revise Often here, or schedule a breakthrough call today!